Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts

Thursday, April 5, 2018

This A Great Summary Of The Situation

Water Cooler Talking Point: “Bumble is that very respectable female who finally left her douche-bag boyfriend and now all he does is talk sh*t about her to his friends to make her look bad. Good for her for sticking up for herself.”

(BroBible.com)

Friday, December 1, 2017

These Are Important Factors Of A Relationship To Me

Every successful relationship is successful for the same exact reasons

3. The most important factor in a relationship is not communication, but respect

  • Respect that they have different hobbies, interests, and perspectives from you. Just because you would spend your time and energy differently, doesn’t mean it’s better/worse.
  • Respect that they have an equal say in the relationship, that you are a team, and if one person on the team is not happy, then the team is not succeeding.
  • No secrets. If you’re really in this together and you respect one another, everything should be fair game. Have a crush on someone else? Discuss it. Laugh about it. Had a weird sexual fantasy that sounds ridiculous? Be open about it. Nothing should be off-limits.

7. You and your partner will grow and change in unexpected ways; embrace it 

Remember, if you’re going to spend decades together, some really heavy shit will hit (and break) the fan. Among major life changes people told me their marriages went through (and survived): changing religions, moving countries, death of family members (including children), supporting elderly family members, changing political beliefs, even changing sexual orientation, and in a couple cases, gender identification.

Amazingly, these couples survived because their respect for each other allowed them to adapt and allow each person to continue to flourish and grow.

More here (QZ.com)

Monday, October 30, 2017

An Interesting Read

If You Can’t Find a Spouse Who Supports Your Career, Stay Single

I was at a dinner with eight highly successful professional women recently, ranging in age from 35 to 74. Their stories were typical of research I have been conducting on dual-career couples.  

This experience underlines the conclusion I’ve drawn from years of research and experience: Professionally ambitious women really only have two options when it comes to their personal partners — a super-supportive partner or no partner at all. Anything in between ends up being a morale- and career-sapping morass.

If your partner is not willing to engage, uninterested in “leaning in,” and resistant to seeking help, you should ask yourself why. Just like at work, it is interesting first to work on yourself. Understand your own issues, the impact you have on others, the degree to which you are creating the reaction you are struggling with. Consider working with a therapist or coach. In the end, after you’ve figured yourself out, if the relationship hasn’t improved, the question remains: What is keeping you in this team? Are you staying out of love or fear?

(HBR.org)